Last time we moved furniture around the house, it took Jake about 4 months to recover. There were temper fits, demands of 'no more change' and slight regressions. So here we are again, remodeling the house and there goes our super hero down a familiar slippery slope.
After 7 years of having the largest room in our house be a "Jake gymnasium" we've made the decision, as a family, to change it back into a grown-up family room. New carpet, new TV and new pictures.
If you are a kid who struggles with change, that's three really BIG changes. Today we were cleaning out that room, hauling stuff upstairs, downstairs and out to garbage cans. Jake was helping, but I could see his anxiety rising with every step he took.
Pretty soon, he was digging out stuffed animals again. He put them in the car (that's where he used to play with them). He started jumping much more on the trampoline. At bedtime, he requested I read two books to him for the first time in many, many months. His questions are literally non-stop. "What's going to go there?"
"Where is the TV going to be?"
"Can I move my computer desk?"
So as we embark upon this change, no matter how quickly we can get it done, we have to remember to keep his needs in the front of our minds. He's already regressed in three areas, we don't want him to slide right out of his safety zone.
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