I've been wanting to write this one for many months now, but haven't found the best way to do it. It is in my brain and I have to get it out. So at the risk of judgement and criticism and losing more friends, here goes.
This journey through Autism is draining and difficult but also the most rewarding trip I've ever taken. One of the harder parts has nothing to do with my kid's behaviors, but so much to do with those people I call and used to call "friends".
Finding and keeping friends who don't judge, who understand and who are supportive is tough. Really tough. I remember losing all my "mom's club" friends when diagnosis came at 2 years old... then I gained many "spectrum mommy" friends over the years... and now I feel as if that circle of friends is disconnecting, and I'm seeking support again.
Maybe it's the end of the school year, maybe I'm just completely annoying (if it is this, someone needs to tell me!), or quite possibly Jake's needs are just too much or too different for some to handle/understand.
Whatever it is, this path is a lonely plod. Don't waste time on friends who judge, question and complain. (I say to myself as well) Seek out those who will just love you for who you are and love your kid even more. Support and encouragement is what we all need! (Where would I be without my sisters? They have to love me, we're related! HA!)
There's too little time for us on Earth to spend it feeling hurt and alone. Grab on to love as you find it (sometimes its in the place you expect it the least) and don't let go. Also, it doesn't hurt to give it back as well. Helping others makes God smile.
Aaaahhhh I feel so much better now. Thanks for listening.
Funny how I wrote almost this exact story in 2011 and was worried about hurting feelings then too! Let it go, lonliness is no joke! Read "Alone on the Spectrum"
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