Again, more proof that if we just listen and watch, our kids/young adults, tell us what their bodies need. Much like when our bodies need protein and we crave meat, Jake's body is telling him what his body NEEDS.
In the wake of a couple months of growing, very long naps and increased aggression, we increased one of his medications. I know, many people are afraid to try meds for fear that they will "change" their child. It WILL change your child. Carefully prescribed and planned out medication will give your kiddo a chance at learning and clarity.
I realize this is a hot button issue, but I stand by medication. I've learned not to judge others' parenting choices, as I believe we all do what we think is best and what we can handle at the time. However, if your child was suffering from the flu or migraines, you wouldn't think twice about meds to help. Why not try anything that might help balance their chemicals to increase chances at learning and success.
I'm not a doctor, I'm speaking from experience. As Jake was spiraling into this latest trip to the "dark side", his anxiety increased too. I thought it was because his body was changing, getting bigger and he's afraid of change and growing into an adult. Some of that is true, however, he would get very upset telling us his "memories are gone, just black."
Sit with that a minute.
His brain was so clouded with unbalanced chemicals, it was impeding his ability to control himself, focus in class and remember basically anything for 5 seconds. I regret not figuring this out sooner, (I know, stop being hard on myself) but it took a med increase to solidify this for me.
We increased one med, after just 3 days, Jake confirmed we made the right decision through amazing conversation.
"I can see the ice rink again. I can see my old school, the hallway, the lockers and the old music room! I see my old bus drivers and route numbers. My memories are coming back," he reported excitedly!
Jake's insight has always been incredible, we've discussed everything, EVERYTHING, since he was born. I used to walk around the house narrating my actions, the reasons, as well as emotions to match my facial expression, and he's learned over the years.
So when he talks, we listen, very closely and look for root causes. This time, because it was medicine related, we did take a little longer to take action.
If you are hesitating about medicating your child, please read this and re-read it again. The right medicine can free your angel's brain and open up dark doors that have been closed until now. He is so excited for his memories to return and have good days at school!
I'm open to conversation about this, feel free to email any time.