I don't know if it's more of my fear or his. Jake didn't seem to be bothered to play alone, in fact he still loves parallel play. But recently, he's been seeking out friendship.
We tread lightly, never knowing if it's going to last. Never knowing if his heart will be broken. Friendships with other kids is so new for us, even at 11 years old.
Peers, in the past, have only fueled wild frustration for Jake. His track record with kids from his old school wasn't great. So our very social kiddo started building walls. He didn't want to play with kids, at all, only adults. Trust was gone.
Since moving to our new school, he's been able to form bonds with other kids. He's more trusting, tolerant and totally excited to have friends.
We had our second successful visit with our new friend S today. As conversation flowed, yes I said flowed, between all of us, we discovered many more commonalities in the two boys.
Likes, dislikes, and obsessions all in common. Love of the outdoors, the need to move CONSTANTLY, amazing singing voices and extraordinary memory.
We said our goodbyes after devouring lunch and I almost had to peel Jake off the ceiling of the car. He was dead tired, but legs keep wiggling, his hands flipping and he did not stop talking about this budding relationship.
Never thought I'd hear, "Mom, I have and new friend and I love him! I like to have a friend."
My heart is smiling!
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